Confront about Cheating
Before confronting your mom, you must be sure about this, and you must have some evidence so, you can prove it because you are going to raise allegation on someone’s character so it should be true if you are thinking to confront your mom. If you heard that your mom is cheating on your dad, then you must investigate it before taking any action.
Secrets and Privacy
You don’t need to tell your dad also till then you are not sure about it. Everyone has the right to have some secrets and privacy in their life. We should respect that and most importantly, it’s a matter of your dad’s life. So, he has the right to decide on this matter.
As a child, you don’t know everything about their relationship, so you have no right to decide on her behalf. Once you are sure it’s true then you can follow the below guidelines, maybe it will help to solve this issue more peacefully.
Talk to your Mom
If you are feeling to confront your mom, then the first thing you can do is to talk to your mom. You need to start the conversation with your mom calmly and tell her that you have some reasons which force you to believe that she is cheating your father. You don’t have to go into the why section like why you think like that.
It’s just how you feel about it, and you want to listen. I have some reason which tells me that you are cheating on dad. If that’s true and I want to rethink about it and think about the family. I am not asking you to do anything, but I would be hurt if that’s true. I want you to think about it again. That’s it. Now end the conversation here.
It doesn’t matter if she admits or denies, but she will think about it again. She must be sure that her decision will also impact your life. Maybe this conversation brings her back and makes her realize that she is going to take the risk with her and your life too.
Why do people cheat?
There are so many reasons behind cheating someone. If we about the women, then it is probably many reasons which are true to cheat. Many things are available which men ignore because of their busy schedule and personal reasons which can lead to disputes in the relationships and families.
- Intense, constant sex
- Private vacations (just the two of you)
- Surprise random gifts
- Attention even with your busy schedule
- Listen to her when she has something to say
- Ask her if something is wrong when you notice some mood swings or behaviours (she needs someone protective and able to take time to study/ understand her)
- Assist her with things you wouldn’t need to do, but then, she needs a helping hand even if she can do it all
- Recite “I Love you”. Always reassure her
Lack of Friendship
The biggest reason for broken marriage and relationships is because they have lost their friendship in their love. Friendship is essential in any relationship; every couple must share all the details about their life, feelings with their partners like we used to do with friends without any judgment. Try to make some fun together.
Most of the relationships broke because of a lack of trust. Any relationship can’t survive without trust. Trust creates the bond strong and makes couples happy. Trust issues can occur because of the jealousy, possessiveness, lack of emotional support.
“Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.”
It’s true; sometimes we don’t want the same thing from each other and because of this reason the relationship broke. It’s not easy living this life with someone who doesn’t want us. Everything goes well in the starting, but slowly they expectation change and they want different things from each other.
Difference In Priorities
Priorities are another reason, like your partner’s priorities from this relationship are different from you. It can make conflict and raise a topic of arguments which can lead to fights as well.
Communication is essential in marriage. We have to spend some time with our partners daily. So, he/she can share their feelings and make a strong bond with trust and emotions. If we don’t communicate, sometimes we assume the things which are not right. If you are having some issue, then talk to them and resolve it rather than assume it and make worst your relationship.
Does ‘Taking A Break’ Ever End Well?
It can be a good idea to take a break for some time if everything is not going well with you. Many couples get back together after taking a break. We often face difficulties when we don’t discuss it. If we can discuss, then we can find the solution as well.
Do some soul searching and figure out why you need some space
Before taking a break, you must search the reason why need space. If you are feeling stressed then definitely you need some time with yourself. Go for it.
Ask yourself: Am I taking a break to avoid toxicity?
If you are feeling toxic with the person you are living, then taking a break can be a good idea.
Establish some ground rules
You both need to set some rules like: What is the purpose of taking a break? Will we be staying in contact, dating other people, working on ourselves, and thinking about getting back together?”
It can be any reason to cheat someone; you need to understand that reason. If the reason is genuine, then you should let go of that person because that will be right for her or him also.
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